You’re probably expecting me to say that I bet Kate Middleton is jealous of Meghan Markle: her public speaking abilities, her confidence, her sex appeal, her beauty, her sparkle in the spotlight. Or maybe you think I’m going to say that I bet Meghan Markle is jealous of Kate Middleton: her position in the royal family, her beautiful children, her ability to bounce back to her pre-pregnancy body, her impeccable fashion sense, her poise and elegance…but I have something else to say…
I was one of those people glued to my screen at 2am (yes, 2 am—I had to see all the guests arriving!) watching the Royal Wedding of Harry and Meghan. It was such a fun experience for me. Everyone was asleep and I got to watch it all by myself without interruption and not only ooo and awe over what I saw but also reminisce about my own wedding. The whole day for me just felt romantic and lovely, as if I had been a guest. It was so fun to call my Mom after and share our thoughts on everything from the guests and the flowers to the dress and the music.
But that’s where it ended, on the phone with my Mom. A private conversation.
What shocked me was what I read online about Meghan’s choices that very afternoon. People’s opinions on the style of her dress, the way her dress fit, her messy bun, her no make-up look. I couldn’t believe how quick people were to publish their negative opinions on the internet for the whole world (and potentially Meghan!) to read. We have all gone to weddings where there was something we didn’t like, be it the main course or the DJ or the dress the mother-of-the-bride wore. But in real life we just complain to our spouse or girlfriends, we don’t publish an article about it! How devastating that would be for a bride to log on the day after her wedding and read all kinds of mean tweets about needing a bobby pin or another dress fitting. So why is it that because this was a televised event people felt compelled and permitted to share their nasty opinions online?
Some would argue that as a celebrity, criticism is fair game. But why does being well known or popular mean that someone deserves to be bullied? Then there’s the argument that we have free speech and should be allowed to say whatever we want about whomever we want. But why does having free speech mean we have a right to be nasty to someone? Defending the right to be cruel, mean, critical, and judgmental about a woman’s wedding day, the happiest day of her life and the day she has dreamed about, does not seem like a good reason to me. Her dress was exactly what she wanted, her hair her favourite way, her flowers her favourite kind—of course it’s not going to be what you or I would have chosen because she is not us!
Why can’t we just be happy for Meghan, even if her choices were not the Royal Wedding of our imaginations? Why are we so jealous that we would cut down a woman on her wedding day and publish mean comments about her on the internet within moments of seeing her walk down the aisle? Why must we invent an imaginary feud between sisters-in-law and declare a winner in every category of battle of the Royal Weddings? It’s quite astonishing how mean spirited our society is.
I was looking for a quote that came to mind but I couldn’t find it, so I will paraphrase: A flower in bloom is no less beautiful because another flower blooms beside it. That’s how I feel about Meghan and Kate. Yes, both women have exciting, glamorous, fancy events in their lives and a lot of money and resources at their disposal. But we all have good things in our lives, too, and we are not in competition with them and they are not in competition with each other. It’s time we all turn down the meanness that so easily comes out on the internet and just be kind. We can keep our opinions to ourselves, or at the very least, off the internet: if you have nothing nice to say/blog/tweet, say/blog/tweet nothing at all. Whatever happened to that!?
Now, in the spirit of positivity, love, kindness and just genuine joy for another woman’s special day, I thought I’d share a few pictures of the three Royal Weddings of the past decade: Meghan, Kate and Sophia. Kate and Will were married one year before me, and now Meghan and Harry almost six years later. It’s actually our wedding anniversary next week and I have been filled with such romance and nostalgia since watching the wedding last month, so this gives me a good way to get some pictures up—there was not a drop of turquoise at my wedding, can you believe that? Like all brides, my wedding day was so special and I felt like an absolute princess, pure royalty. But the best part of all was marrying my true love. Meghan and Kate have a lot of wonderful things to be envious of, but nobody fills my heart and soul with love like my man. He is mine, I am his and that’s all I could ever want.
Kate with Sarah Burton, Meghan with Clare Waight Keller
Kate and Pippa, Meghan and Mulroneys
Will and Kate/Harry and Meghan first kiss
Will and Kate leaving church, Harry and Meghan leaving church
Meghan and Kate reception dress
8 thoughts on “Meghan, Kate: Royal Wedding Jealousy”
Your comparison photos are stunning! What a wonderful outlook you have about it all
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Oh thank you so much, Rstarrlemaitre! I have such strong memories of that day, it’s so much fun to go back through the photos! And extra fun seeing how similar the Royal Weddings were…like I mean could me and Meghan have had any more similar veils?!
Sophia…always so eloquent and with such a pure heart full of love and kindness. Thank you for saying what so many of us have been feeling!
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Oh Valeta, you are so kind to say that, thank you! Almost every picture I used came from a Kate vs Meghan comparison post. Comparison is ok, it’s fun to see the similarities and differences and to get a little glimpse into their individual styles. I don’t know why we can’t just leave it at that rather than being mean!
Absolutely beautiful! I fully agree that’s it’s gotten entirely too easy for people to criticize anyone famous. Those people worked their butts off, followed their dreams, achieved their goals, etc. Funny how the photos not only look similar, but parts of your personalities too. You’re just as beautiful as they are, inside and out. I love your poise and grace. I love your determination and how you meet every challenge with steel determination. This post was incredibly heart-warming.
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Oh my gosh Mischief and Mayhem, you are an angel for saying that, thank you so much for the lovely compliments. I totally get that celebrities give us lots to gossip and speculate about, but I do feel like our culture is way too obsessed with celebrity. Especially their private personal lives!
What a beautiful blog! Every bride should feel beautiful and special and loved on her wedding day! In a world where we can be anything, ehy not choose to be kind! Your photos are spectacular. Happy anniversary!
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Thank you so much, Theheartofthepumpkin! It’s like our default position these days (at least online) is to be catty! Even to someone who seems as nice and sweet as Meghan! I don’t know the girl from anything more than her interviews and her blog (I was a follower of it before all this Royal stuff!) but she seems like a good person. Even if she wasn’t a good person we can still be nice, right?!